“Courage, sacrifice, determination, commitment, toughness, heart, talent, guts. That’s what little girls are made of; the heck with sugar and spice.”
― Bethany Hamilton, Soul Surfer: A True Story of Faith, Family, and Fighting to Get Back on the Board
When I was young-in my emotional teen years-I remember crying on my bed after being betrayed by a friend and thinking, “When I become a mother, I hope I don’t have a little girl because I wouldn’t want her to have to go through all the suffering of growing up as a girl.”
Well, I didn’t suffer much but I have always been a very sensitive person taking on the pain and anguish of others’ behavior and feeling their betrayal to the fullest. It often inhibited me from moving on to the next wonderful thing that I wanted to create.
When I became a mom to a girl, little did I know how much I would learn that it didn’t have to be that way. Maliea has taught me to let go and to not feel like others are breaking their faith with me. She has taught me to let things roll off my back and move on and I find that attitude so alluring and empowering. It has changed the way I do everything in my life.
Maliea is on the verge of turning 6 and I am sad and excited. I learn so much from her goofiness, daring, casual yet determined way. She has a way about her that makes me envious but there is no point in worrying about all the years lost in my old ways of being-it’s time to celebrate and dive in with joy for the years ahead with her by my side.
I am working on a series titled “Once A Girl” in honor of her early years. This is the time period where I began to see her strength, beauty and independence. I always thought that if you were a girlie girl you would be weak minded. Not my Mana. She has a very strong mind yet she is into bling. What an education I am receiving.
Some of the images are created as artifacts using various alternative photographic processes. They are presented differently to represent the varying facets of “Her” personality. I will continue to add the objects d’art to this post as I create them-one a day until she turns 6 on March 25th.
To my beautiful Mana-your laughter, tears and indignation define your unfaltering character. I love what you have done to change the way I see the world.